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Life Check Yourself 280 – How to Ask for Help When You Are in a Mood with Chris Gillis


Life Check Yourself 280 – How to Ask for Help When You Are in a Mood with Chris Gillis


Chris Gillis

Life Check Yourself Episode 280 – How to Ask for Help When You Are in a Mood with Chris Gillis

In this Check Your Life podcast, Marni and Chris break down the real-life dating lessons from the most recent episode of the Bachelorette. Bachelorette Michelle is throwing out a lot of pink flags, and it has the guys confused. The guys need to know exactly what she wants but she or the producers are creating a lot of inconsistencies and confusion.

Key takeaways from this episode:

  • Are you leaking your insecurities?
  • Do you pick guys who tell you what you want to hear?
  • Is your feminine energy blocked by your masculine energy?
  • Does your style enhance who you are or cover it up?

Whose Style Is It Anyway? [1:35]

The show starts off with Michelle’s date with Martin. Marni finds Martin distracting and thinks he is trying very hard to make a statement with his image. A Stylist on the Life Check Yourself team says if your image shows up before you do, you are hiding in your clothes. People should notice you, not what you are wearing.

Your style should showcase you, not cover up who you are.

Marni and Chris offer some tips for when you find yourself on a date with Mr. Try Hard. Basically, when dating IRL don’t fall for a guy’s potential! There is a chance Martin could change, but it is not likely. Marni and Chris agree he is a boy who is not ready to be engaged.

The Slumber Party [15:12]

Viewers may never know if this group activity was designed to invoke drama but it sure seemed like it. The producers put the guys in silky pajamas but then in a masculine environment. Chris says it had to be staged. Someone knew the guys would not make a love connection because they were in battle mode due to all the testosterone in the room.

Michelle shows up and none of the guys pay attention to her. She obviously wanted more attention yet she didn’t get involved she sat and sulked. She says she didn’t feel seen. She scolds the guys for not giving her what she wanted which surprised them because she had not told them what she wanted.

Marni says Michelle is a classic example of a woman who is extremely pretty and smart and should be super confident but something in her childhood left her insecure. She should speak to a life coach or therapist.

When you feel small your vibe is small.

Let Your Feminine Energy Shine Through [29:39]

Michelle displays a lot of masculine energy. She dresses very feminine to try and balance it out. Michelle is a basketball, tomboy-type girl yet the producers have her dressed in heels and ball gowns. It must be so confusing for the guys.

If a guy doesn’t know where he stands or what you want he will do nothing.

Marni believes it is giving her the friendzone vibe which confuses the guys because they signed up to get engaged. Chris says the guys are having a hard time reading her because she isn’t being flirtatious.

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