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Episode 114


Jessica Ortner

How to Manage Your Pre & Post Date Anxiety to Take the Hating Out of Dating

Episode 114

How to Manage Your Pre & Post Date Anxiety to Take the Hating Out of Dating


Jessica Ortner

Dating Den Episode 114 – With Jessica Ortner: How to Manage Your Pre & Post Date Anxiety to Take the Hating Out of Dating

Do you want to know why your dates don’t go well… why you don’t have chemistry?

Well, let’s see… do you go out on a date filled with anxiety…

Do you tense up around great men, have trouble being flirty and feminine?

Do you date reluctantly, but kind of hate the whole process?


Marni welcomes Jessica into the Den to present self-care tools and techniques to help with pre and post dating anxiety and to increase overall wellbeing. In her new book, The Tapping Solution to Create Lasting Change, Jessica shares her insights and the personal experiences that allowed her to get unstuck and find her flow.

Tapping: What it Is and How it Works [2:25]

When it comes to dating, if you feel anxious, you set yourself up for disaster. You may even have a physical response, like a knot in your body or pressure in your chest. Jessica uses EFT tapping to help with the anxiety she had around dating and relationships.

Tapping is stress relief based on tapping on pressure points in the body. To show up as your best self.

Jessica was chronically single. Men she met didn’t want to commit. She was frustrated and she felt she needed a change. To shake things up she thought maybe a change of scenery would help. She moved to California.

She realized that when she went on a date and if she didn’t meet the guy of her dreams, she felt as if the date was a failure. She ended up not enjoying the dating process.

She had challenges around weight loss and body confidence. She was so into making other people like her she didn’t even consider if she liked the other person. She felt like every date she was being judged. And her anxiety was keeping her from attracting the right people.

After discovering the tapping process, she decided to make every date a success. She could flirt and have fun but still tell the other person she wasn’t interested. She used each date as practice for staying present. She decided she was going to celebrate every single date and look at each date as an opportunity to learn and to meet someone new and to be in her body.

Navigating Dating While Calm [10:12]

Jessica shares some tips about how to use the tapping technique to calm the body before a date:

Stress over being single can cause stress and anxiety. In can create a fog of anxiety. It is important to clear the fog in order to navigate your single life. The more you can enjoy your life when you are single the more opportunity you have to attract good things into our lives.

Don’t miss Jessica’s incredible story and some super useful tips and strategies in this episode!

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