Before COVID Allison was dating online and going out with people she met a few times a month. But she was overwhelmed by meeting so many guys that were different than who she thought they would be. She is really hoping for in-person chemistry. Marni gives Allison permission to ask for an in-person date faster. She warns that Allison may be creating pseudo-intimacy with a person because the chatting back and forth mimics interest and connection. But by the time Allison actually meets the guy, it is disappointing because the connection isn’t real. There is nothing to fear. We are all just human beings who want to find a partner. If someone isn’t willing to make a plan, it lets you know about his interest level and his integrity. Traditional gender roles don’t apply until you meet. There is too much to do in today’s world. You don’t need a penpal or to create a false sense of connection. We are always doing the best we can, even when it doesn’t look like it. Self-introspection allows us to shift our mindset and ultimately have healthier relationships because we have a better relationship with ourselves.