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Life Check Yourself 285 – Why Don't I Want to @*"$ the Nice Guy? With Chris Gillis


Life Check Yourself 285 – Why Don't I Want to @*"$ the Nice Guy? With Chris Gillis


Chris Gillis

Life Check Yourself Episode 285 – Why Don't I Want to @*"$ the Nice Guy? With Chris Gillis

Marni and Chris deconstruct the latest Bachelorette episode to siphon every last drop of real-life dating advice out of it. This week, Michelle was a tad too condescending when giving sweet Rodney the boot. So, Marni offers tips for breaking up with a guy without belittling him, plus why Clayton was chosen for the new Bachelor.

Key takeaways from this episode:

  • Don’t rule out the nice guy to quickly
  • Why you should date multiple people at a time
  • Break up so you both have your dignity intact
  • Consistency matters in a man

Player or Genuine Nice Guy? [1:54]

Marni and Chris have a difference of opinion when it comes to Brandon. Marni thinks he is a genuinely nice guy while Chris calls him out as a player. So, how do you know if a guy is honestly falling for you or if he is a low-key hidden narcissist?

Chris says Brandon is good at pushing the ball down the field and seems to be talking Michelle into a relationship. He cleverly shows up at certain times and asks for a separate conversation with her parents. Chris thinks Brandon is doing it with a purpose and eventually we will see he is a hunter. Marni thinks he is the kind of guy a lot of women would fall for.

Both agree that Michelle got rid of Rodney because she doesn’t want to sleep with him, that there was no sexual chemistry. She didn’t try to create chemistry because there were other guys to choose from who she did have chemistry. Chris thinks Rodney would be a generous lover.

Ladies, reminder, there is nothing wrong with dating multiple guys at once. Marni recommends it!

Nayte [16:55]

Michelle is interested in Nayte even though he has never been in a long-term relationship. Marni thinks Nayte is emotionally stunted but gives him a pass because most humans are. She gives him credit for having the conversation with his step-dad.

Nayte has a great smile and has a lot going for him. He told Michelle she inspires him to be a better man. Nayte has feelings for her but as his Stepdad reminds him, having feelings is different than making a commitment to get married.

Marni’s Hot Takes [31:27]

  • When you think you know someone, be cautiously optimistic and find out if they are who you think they are, consistently.
  • Don’t rule out the nice guy. Are you trying to create chemistry or connection or are you looking for a way to get out of it because there is another guy you want to bang?
  • Don’t fall in love with the potential.

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