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Episode 108


Luke Iorio

How to Get Him Out of Your Head For Good and Why Waiting for the Universe to Bring You a Guy is Total BS

Episode 108

How to Get Him Out of Your Head For Good and Why Waiting for the Universe to Bring You a Guy is Total BS


Luke Iorio

Dating Den Episode 108 – With Luke Iorio: How to Get Him Out of Your Head For Good and Why Waiting for the Universe to Bring You a Guy is Total BS

Do you really think if you keep visualizing the high-quality man you want, the universe is somehow going to plant him on your doorstep with a bouquet of flowers?

Are you still waiting and pining for Mr. Wrong…?

You know, that guy who is NEVER going to give you the LOVE and relationship you want or need?

This episode will help you to get out of your own way and let you show up fully for the right MAN.

In this episode, Marni sits down with President of the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC) and host of The Meaningful Way Podcast, Luke Iorio.

How Acceptance Reduces Stress [2:33]

Acceptance is the ability to embrace any situation, any moment, or any experience life happens to throw at you. Many of us have a hard time accepting things when they don’t go their way. Acceptance isn’t about agreeing with or condoning what is happening, it’s about accepting the emotions you are going through.

Any time life doesn’t meet our expectations we react to it. But there is no reason for us to make it complex. We need to have the moment and then not add any of our stories and expectations around it.

Luke explains the exact process of how to get through it with clarity, and allow the energy around it to settle. And how to go at the situation with clarity and peace.

Strategies to Relieve Discomfort [8:17]

Luke says it’s important for us to remember that our problems are ours. If we get triggered by something it may be only us that is affected. Someone else may not respond at all to the same thing happening to them.

And, it’s natural for humans to move away from discomfort. We will do anything we can to push away from anything unpleasant.

If you avoid accepting the experience and try to rationalize it with a story you are settling.

Ask yourself if you are in this life to simply settle for good enough?

Weapons of Mass Distraction [24:26]

Ask yourself what is it you use to distract yourself from discomfort or something you don’t want to feel. Is it social media, working too much, exercising, or wine? The problem with quieting your discomfort is that the discomfort is surfacing for a reason. Life is calling your attention to something you are meant to work through or to acknowledge.

We all have an inner teacher and when we distract ourselves we don’t listen to them. Our teachers beg is to take action to achieve growth, not just think about our discomforts.

Taking action requires our ongoing mindfulness. Or, our discomfort will become an ongoing cycle that will repeat itself over and over again and show up on dates or in our relationships.

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